Are YOU Getting in Your Own Way?

Do you find yourself stagnating? Are you dissatisfied in life or work? 

Maybe it's YOU. 

It was me. Divorce made me rethink a lot of things. 

I am not slagging on my ex, here...I simply realized that, once my life became open-ended, I didn't have a plan anymore...and, the plan I had was absolutely, positively, dead on arrival. 

Quite honestly, it really wasn't a plan. I was simply locked into a future that included someone. Now it most assuredly does not.  

And my next plan, as it comes together, revolves around me. I am not going to plan to have anyone in my life. 

Not out of a sense of bitterness, I feel I should be clear. I am simply making a plan that I will fund, and be responsible for. If someone else joins my life, so much the better, but if I am alone, I will be ready to travel, and live a joyous life, by myself. Like I did for the first 45 years of my life. 

I have seen my future, and have decided I am gonna need some Chanel shades to go with that retirement house in Puglia. 

Or, maybe, in Cinqua Terra. I LOVE that place. 

Either way, I will need to branch out, spread my wings, and see my full-potential realized. 

When you realize that you haven't achieved what you think you should have, it's easy to turtle...pull your head in your shell, and not think about why. 

It's also easy to pretend it is too late to do anything about it. 

I don't care how old you is NOT too late. 

What are your dreams? What did you dream about when you were younger? Why did you let them go? 

Are you sure your life is too locked-in to change it? To take that chance? 

Or are you frightened? Change is scary, and life changes that upend everything, even more-so. 

One of the things my counselor and I have been working on, is learning to embrace the chaos of change. Relish it. Like I used to. 

Life is an adventure again, after many years of complacency. Actually, let's be honest. I was in stasis. 

That is OVER. I am firing on all cylinders, and it turns out, I have 12. Vroom, baby. 

At 50, I am seeing a future that is completely up in the air, and rife with possibility. And I am going to carpe the frickin' diem right out of it. 

I have a you? 

Here are 13 things you should quit doing, if you want to get out of your own way. Read it, it's fantastic! 

Photo credits: Bari, Puglia, Italy; Salvatore Freni Jr. Wikicommons

Beach scene: Getty Images

LaDona Harvey

LaDona Harvey

La Dona Harvey is co-host of San Diego's Morning News on News Radio KOGO AM 600. Read more


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